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What Are Mistaken Goals?
The primary goal of all children (humans) is to feel as if they belong somewhere and are important in their lives. A lot of times we form mistaken goals, ideas of how to fit in, that are wrong. Once you figure out what the Mistaken Goal is you can help your child change that belief and form a new one!
There are some clues that can be a dead giveaway if you become well versed in identifying them and using the encouraging responses that help for that belief. The Mistaken Goals are:
- Undue Attention
- Misguided power
- Revenge
- Assumed Inadequacy
F.A.Q.s
How do I get good at naming my feelings?
Look on the mistaken goals chart here and look over all of the feelings listed in column 2. It can help if you imagine a scenario that feels like each one to get a better feel. And just keep practicing, it’s the amount of time you put in the effort that will ultimately make you an expert.
Yes! If you have a child that thrives off of undue attention, you can change that belief in frivolous attention to “I belong when I am helpful” if you redirect to a useful task. This will also help build their beliefs around their capabilities.
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